How coaching works?
You are the expert on your own life but how well do you recognise that wonderful store of knowledge you have about yourself? Are you able to access it when you need it the most?
The human mind is the most amazing, most complex computer imaginable. It contains incredible amounts of information about us, our experiences and our manifold skills and abilities. Yet sometimes we feel that our internal database is in such a muddle that we can’t make sense of all the information it’s processing. Or we seem to act as if it isn’t there at all - believing that other people are better placed to find the answers for our lives.
That’s where coaching comes in. It enables us to utilise our unique database to its full potential.
Coaching helps us to evaluate what we already know about ourselves and use that knowledge to make important decisions, resolve dilemmas and plan new strategies and actions. We may have forgotten how well we dealt with a similar situation in the past or how good we can be under pressure. Perhaps we’ve never stopped to ask ourselves why a particular strategy never gives us our desired outcomes or wondered how we can use that information to do things differently in the future.
Maybe we’ve just never allowed ourselves to stand outside our situation and think about it objectively. Or dared to focus on all the benefits we could enjoy if we stopped sabotaging ourselves.
Why can’t I do this by myself?
A few very lucky people are able to act as their own coaches. However for most of us it doesn’t happen like that. We’re so used to thinking about our lives in particular ways that whether we’re looking at an old dilemma or considering a new challenge, we tend to drift into set patterns of thinking. The more we try to gain clarity the more our minds seem to clutter up with thoughts. So we either give up on the situation, reverting back to our old ways of doing things, or we just put off thinking about it altogether. Often missing vital opportunities as a result.
Coaching helps us use our unique store of resources to the full - and avoid those wasted opportunities.